May 26, 2009

A New Day

The sun coming up over the farm last month.

Hello Friends.....welp it's been significantly longer than a week since I last posted. Sorry! I still have no Internet connection at home. I set up text posting today, so I have no more excuses. I'm sitting in Starbucks posting this as I needed to escape my office. It's just seems decadent to leave work and come here.
So here's where I attempt an explanation about why my posting has been at best erratic and at worse non-existent since November.
Short version:


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Okay...sorry for not fessing up sooner. But somethings you just can't share when the topic may hurt someone else. More on this later.
For tonight.....The POLO season is finally starting. So I'm off to put together my hamper for tonight's tailgating. Then off to Darlington for Polo under the lights. First chukka starts at 8pm. Have a great weekend everyone!
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11 comments:

Neas Nuttiness said...

I am so very very sorry - for all of your loses. It is so hard to watch someone you truly love, hurting themselves...through alcohol or drug abuse. I know first hand. I have a son sitting in a jail cell. He chose drugs and alcohol over proper medication (he is bi-polar) and counseling. He has destroyed his marriage, and can no longer support his beautiful children. I would give anything to be able to "cure" him - just like you gave up your home and financial security.
Please know, that you and your husband are in my thoughts and prayers. If you ever need to "talk", email me - okay?
libneas[at]aol[dot]com

Far Side of Fifty said...

Tami, It sounds like you have run a gauntlet of emotions. I am sorry he had to hit rock bottom, it must have been heart wrenching for you. I hope you will continue to go to Al-Anon, it is important for you to connect with people in a similar situation with similar concerns..you can identify with them and they with you. You need that. I can offer no other words of wisdom, only support for you. AND some prayers! :)

Michele said...

Oh Tami... first, hugs out to you... I read your story and thought it must have been so devastating to walk away from a life that you had built for years with a man that you love so much. I can only imagine the pain. I am really proud of you, if that helps at all. You indeed were trying to help save both of your lives the day you left and it did help...

I hope he continues to be the happy and healthy husband you speak off, you both deserve that in life. Take one day at a time... baby steps, all will be fine.

Hugs♥

Claudia's thoughts said...

I hope things work out. Quiting an addiction is very difficult and it is even worse on the spouse. Maybe he hit his rock bottom and will go on from there. My husband had a smoking addiction and he had quit about seven times. It has affected his health but not like some of the other substance abuse that are out there. Hope it works out for you.

Tami said...

Neas...thank you for sharing that, really....thanks.

Far Side...Your prayers are very welcome.

Michele...thank you. You are an inspiration.

Thanks Claudia.

Really everyone your kindness here is so heartening. Know that you are all considered friends.

This DVM's Wife's Life said...

You are very strong for leaving him and making your life a better place. Sometimes it is only that person with the addiction that can help themself, and not everyone around them. You did what is right. You couldn't help him, even though you tried. You sound upbeat in your post and that is a good sign. I also feel better to read that you are doing okay!
Hugs to you. Things will be better. Hope your little Charlotte and Clarice are doing fine!

Shellmo said...

Tami - you are such a strong woman!I know this must've all been so hard for you. I am glad your husband is now sober and I hope happier days are ahead for you - you deserve it!!!
P.S. I have a brother that has not hit his rock bottom yet - but our family prays that day will come soon.

The Wife said...

You are a strong woman. My prayers are with you and your family.

Spruce Hill said...

So glad to have you back! I have been worried about you. Sounds like you have had a tough go at it. Sending you my prayers for you and your family :)

Tami said...

Just wanted to thank the rest of you for your very kind words. THANK YOU!!!!!

Tami said...

Far Side....I did find the literature from Al-Anon a huge HUGE help.